Congratulations to you for finally taking this bold step towards becoming a better lover for your partner. I love this for you. Nevermind the nature of our business, we still beleive in beautiful unions. Anyway, let's get right to it:  
 

Set The Mood 

In any massage setting, mood is everything. This is why massage parlours put in a lot of effort into making sure their parlours are as clean and relaxing as possible. Setting the mood with a romantic partner however should be easier, you got the feels going around, the ice is alreasy broken. It'll help if you invest a little in getting the right oils and fragrances, a new towel, a costume maybe? Yeah, be as imaginative as possible. Remember the Bible verse? There is just as much, even more pleasure in giving than in receiving. The more intentional you are about the whole process the more pleasurable it will be for you too. 

On choosing a day, you want to make sure your man is free. Are you doing this as a surprise? I hope you are. I know he would love that!  But it doesn't have to be. You do what feels natural 

You want to.make sure the man is well fed, is clean, and has taken a dump before getting started. 

Are you going to give the massage on a bed or did you go all out and buy a massage bed? Did you rent a whole spa for the day? 

Since you're just getting started, I'll assume you're working with just the bed right now. I hope this improves though, you need to do better next time. 

It's important to pick a good surface for the massage. You need something firm and comfy that's long enough for your partner. If you don't have a massage table, use a floor mat, bed, or futon. Just make sure you can reach all of your partner's back without stretching too much. Don't use a sofa with a high back because it might get in the way of reaching one side of your partner's body. 

Undress Him. -  Now this will definitely set the mood.  

Now have him lie face down on the massage surface with his arms folded above his head. Make sure he's comfortable. If he feels any pain or discomfort in his lower back, neck, knees, or ankles, you can put folded towels or cushions under him.

You'll need some massage oil, not just for pleasure, but because it reduces friction between your hands and his skin, preventing you from pulling his body hairs. You only need a little bit of oil, so don't use too much. Put a small amount on your hands (not directly on his skin), then rub your hands together to warm it up.

Ready? Good.  Let's proceed, 
 

The Massage 

Don't just jump straight to the genitals, have some class.  You want to start with the basic non-sexual touch, just to warm yourselves up; caress his head, back, legs, buttocks etc . That's the beauty of a massage, giving ought to be just as pleasurable as receiving.   

So in this sensual massage, which will lead to foreplay, you'll want to stay close to him the whole time. You might, ough to even do a full body massage.

To make the massage more sexual, try sitting on his buttocks while you massage his shoulders and lower back. This will increase the physical contact and intimacy.

The inner thigh area is very sensitive, so after massaging his back, have him turn over and gently massage his inner thighs.

The area from his belly button to his genitals is also sensitive. Spend a few minutes massaging this area gently. The tip of his penis and where it meets the shaft are very sensitive too. You can gently massage these areas to move into more erotic zones.  

You want to stay away from the tip, and only massage it occasionally just to edge him a little. Concenrating on the tip will have him orgasm quicker and you don't want that, right?  Yeah, if you have to stimilate the penis, concentrate on the shaft, the balls, and the perineum.  

I feel we're getting ahead of ourselves. Before rushing to make the man cum, let's look for more pleasure centers. 

Massing Your Man's Perinuem/Anus 

Depending on your man, this can be met with outright dissaproval, hesitancy, or if you have an explorative partner, complete acceptance. You know your partner more than we do so you be the judge. 

To test the waters, you want to gently massage the perinuem. By the way, why are we testing waters? It ought to be communicated, and boundaries should be respected. You've also not been mum throughout this whole exercise have you?  

If you're feeling a little freaky, do it with your mouth. Too much? Okay, I'll stop. 

We'll go over this in another blog. 

Let's go back to the happy ending. 
 

Giving the Happy Ending Handjob 

Well, how this ends depends on you really, can end in full blown oily sex, a blowjob, or a edging handjob, you decide. 

If we're going the handjob way, here are a few techniques to guide you; 

• Instead of moving your hand back and forth, twist it as you slide it along his penis.
• Switch hands if one gets tired.
• Try using both hands at once. Start with one hand at the base of his penis and stroke upwards. Before you reach the head, place your other hand at the base and repeat the motion, so one hand is always on his penis.
• Don’t forget his balls. Massage them with one hand while you stroke with the other.
• You can also try lightly tickling them.
• Use massage oil to keep things slippery and comfortable. Don't use spit, unless its mixed up with precum. 
•  When stroking his shaft, move the skin up and down instead of just sliding your hand. You can do this even if he’s circumcised.
• Massage the ridge at the bottom of his head with your thumb. This is usually the most sensitive part. Rub the palm of your hand over the head of his penis as you finish each stroke. 

These tips are just to guide you, to help you get started, you're welcome to try different techniques to keep things interesting. Also, watch how he responds, and communicate! 

When he's close to orgasm, his breathing will get heavier. You could try edging. Bring him almost to orgasm, then stop or slow down. Repeat this a few times until you let him have a really intense orgasm. Note that edging might be harder if he orgasms easily.

Not all men can orgasm from a hand job, probably because of how he masturbates. When masturbating men often use a lot of pressure and force meaning a light touch mght not do much, there's a reason they call it, 'kunyonga monkey.
 

Thigh Sex

 

Handjobs can be tiring if he's not cumming fast. You can get oiled up too, lay on top of him and put his penis between your thighs, and wriggle your thighs as you slide up and down his body. This should work, and can be a perfect ending to the sensual massage. 
 

After the Massage 

Is the playlist still playing? I hope you put on loop. How are you feeling? 

Don't be quick to leave and start cleaning up, maybe cuddle? Marinate in that mood for a few hours. Is there warm food in the kitchen? 

Whatever you do now is up to you. Hope you had a great read. 

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